Sunday, 11 December 2016

Relationship


Yes, you got it rightly. I'm talking about relationship between a man and a woman. Not anything else. Am I going to hurt people by quoting their stories here. It is my story more than anyone else. Shouldn't I have my opinion about the people around me? Yes, while everyone is entitled to have their own opinion and so do I. I'm not gonna reveal anyone's identity, but my own perspective. It is up to you,
you read it or scrape it.

I shouldn't be so surprised when someone says that I'm interested in you and if it doesn't work out, I've somebody else in the pipeline.
I shouldn't be so surprised when someone says that I'm interested in you and no other man will touch me until you are in my country and I'll count on you and keep hoping that you will change your mind.
I shouldn't be so surprised when someone says that I'm interested in you, but you are my plan B.

Why I shouldn't be surprised?
This materialistic attitude is very common since so long ago in some parts of the world so openly and in some parts of the world not so openly. But, this exists everywhere. In fact, I remained as an emotional human being and I'm completely in tune with that. Shall I tell you the truth? I'm surprised, I'm so damnly surprised to see how people are being like machines without any emotional bond with the person whom they chose to live with. I used to remind myself "Attachment with detachment".  But this level of detachment is beyond my imagination.

Even people have some emotional connection with their bicycles, bikes, cars etc. They want to keep them for ever. How did human relationships have turned less valuable than the emotional connection with these bicycles, bike and cars? One shouldn't compromise with happiness. But, it doesn't mean that one start cheating their partners and call it as privacy, my own life etc.

Relationships are not even lasting until the couple repay their loan amount which they have taken to run a business together dreaming big about their future. In the end, relationship and business don't exist, but the EMI (Equated Monthly Installment) does. What remains at the end is you and the consequences of the choices you made in the past.

They don't know what they want in partner. They don't know who they are themselves. How can they know who they are marrying.  -Mitch Albom (Tuesdays with Morrie)

Every relationship starts with a hope that it lasts for ever and they think that their dreams are turning into reality. But, it is not the case with many relationships.
Then, how can one find the right one, the one which lasts for the rest of the life?
If you search, you may find the right one after few wrong ones.
Few?
"Few" is how many?
If you don't search, you don't find any at all. But, you can be found by other always ))
Isn't precious life being wasted in hanging out with wrong people.
This world is far from being filled with all the honest people. Many people claim to be what they are not.

Relationship has true significance only when it is a process of self-revelation. But most of us do not want to be revealed in relationship. On the contrary, we use relationship as a means of covering up our own insufficiency, our own troubles, our own uncertainty. So, relationship becomes mere movement, mere activity. I do not know if you have noticed that relationship is very painful and that as long as it is not a revealing process in which you are discovering yourself, relationship is merely a means of escape from yourself. So, you see that relationship, if you allow it, can be a process of self revelation. But since we do not allow it relationship becomes merely a gratifying activity. As long as the mind merely uses relationship for its own security, that relationship is bound to create confusion and antagonism. 
- J. Krishna Murthi

Contemplation Continues...

Thursday, 8 December 2016

Dream Spot

My Childhood Friend

2 Kms away from my home, next to the road, a small pond. That was my dream spot during my teenage. I have discovered when I went for a long walk and later on, took my friends there many times.

I very often went there and spend sometime contemplating. It was so refreshing being there surrounded by the tress and a small pond. Now, I realise why I'm interested in meditation. 

I still remember walking to that place in a light rain, wet road, smell of the soil...
Just one visit to that place was so much for me during those days...
Every mental noise was getting settled there...


Saturday, 3 December 2016

My Himalayan Trip (Part-2)

Bharat Sevashram Sangha is the place where I headed after reaching Badrinath. 
The office bearer looked at me from bottom to top when I have asked for a room. Then he directed me to go to Swamiji who was the in-charge of the ashram. Again same looks from top to bottom. He said that I would have to pay money, why not Swamiji, said I. 
How many days?
For 15 days.
Will you eat outside or will you eat in the ashram?
I'll eat in the ashram only.
Okay per day 200/-. You pay total 2400/- instead of 3000/-.  

I paid the money and got the room. It was so dirty. Still I was happy to be able to reach that place. Told myself that I am gonna stay here for coming 15 days come what may. Went to Bhagawat Gita session. There I felt I was really in an ashram.

Cleaned the room as soon as I got back to the room and started feeling as it was my home. There was puja (worship) in the evening followed by dinner. There was segregation, all the people who wear orange clothes sit together and the brahmacharis (Singles) sit together. Married people sit for dinner once all these single people finish their dinner. Reached my room and spread my yoga mat on the top of the bed which was damp and slept and so on for 15 nights.

Next morning went to the temple the Badrinath Temple after taking bath in hot spring (Tapt Kund). It was so warming and nice experience to be in a hot pool during cold weather. People call it as God's miracle that there is this hot spring. I came to know that there are such hot springs all over the world. There would be different stories based on their religion. Sat in the temple to meditate for a while. There were so many who were sitting around. Some were doing Mala (Rosaries) and some were just sitting silently like me. 

I saw the Ashram in-charge Swamiji praying who once asked an elderly person to leave the dining table as he was not a single man. That elderly man had to leave the food which he started eating. How terrible it was. He could have excused him for that one time and could have told him next time. There is no scarcity of such stone-hearted people in this world. 

The more I heard from the people the more I wanted to know. There were all kinds of people from psychos to scientists. Where do I belong? Which extreme? 
Time will tell...