Relationship

Yes, you got it right. I'm talking about the relationship between a man and a woman. Not anything else. Am I going to hurt people by quoting their stories here? It is my story more than anyone else. Shouldn't I have my opinion about the people around me? Yes, everyone is entitled to have their own opinion, and so do I. I'm not going to reveal anyone's identity but my perspective. It is up to you,
you read it or scrape it.

I shouldn't be so surprised when someone says that I'm interested in you, and if it doesn't work out, I've somebody else in the pipeline.
I shouldn't be so surprised when someone says that I'm interested in you and no other man will touch me until you are in my country, and I'll count on you and keep hoping that you will change your mind.
I shouldn't be surprised when someone says I'm interested in you, but you are my plan B.

Why shouldn't I be surprised?
This materialistic attitude has been prevalent since so long ago in some parts of the world so openly, and in some parts of the world not so openly. But, this exists everywhere. I remained an emotional human being, and I'm completely in tune with that. Shall I tell you the truth? I'm surprised; I'm so damnably surprised to see how people are like machines without any emotional bond with the person they chose to live with. I used to remind myself, "Attachment with detachment."  But this level of detachment is beyond my imagination.

Even people have some emotional connection with their bicycles, bikes, cars, etc. They want to keep them forever. How have human relationships become less valuable than the emotional connection with these bicycles, bikes, and cars? One shouldn't compromise with happiness. But, it doesn't mean that one starts cheating their partners and calls it privacy, my own life, etc.

Relationships are not even lasting until the couple repays their loan amount, which they have taken to run a business together, dreaming big about their future. In the end, relationships and business don't exist, but the EMI (Equated Monthly Installment) does. What remains, in the end, is you and the consequences of the choices you made in the past.

They don't know what they want in a partner. They don't know who they are themselves. How can they know who they are marrying?  -Mitch Albom (Tuesdays with Morrie)

Every relationship starts with the hope that it lasts forever, and they think their dreams are becoming reality. But, it is not the case with many relationships.
Then, how can one find the right one, the one which lasts for the rest of their life?
If you search, you may find the right one after a few wrong ones.
Few?
"Few" is how many?
If you don't search, you don't find any at all. But, you can be found by others always ))
Isn't precious life being wasted on hanging out with the wrong people?
This world is far from being filled with all honest people. Many people claim to be what they are not.

The relationship has true significance only when it is a process of self-revelation. But most of us do not want to be revealed in a relationship. On the contrary, we use the relationship as a means of covering up our insufficiency, our troubles, and our uncertainty. So, the relationship becomes a mere movement, mere activity. I do not know if you have noticed that a relationship is very painful and that as long as it is not a revealing process in which you are discovering yourself, relationship is merely a means of escape from yourself. So, you see, that relationship, if you allow it, can be a process of self-revelation. But since we do not allow it, a relationship becomes merely a gratifying activity. As long as the mind merely uses relationship for its own security, that relationship is bound to create confusion and antagonism. 
- J. Krishna Murthi

Contemplation Continues...