I've been full of so many thoughts in connection with marriage these days. What I ask my self is "Is that fair enough to bound myself with one family a small family? Is that all I can do in my life? What about millions of poor people around? What about orphan children in my country? What's the connection between marriage and my these concerns? Can marriage stop me from working for non profit organisations? Will my wife (If I marry) stop me from doing service to needy people? Absolutely, no idea. There are half of the chances if I marry blindly. What if I can marry a girl who is with same vision? What if I don't marry? What am I gonna lose?
Am I gonna neglect biological needs? Then, what about thousands of other things. Pranayama, Meditation, satvik food, good food habbits and positive thinking. Why every young woman and man is being compelled by the society to get married? Why not this society compel young people to practice YOGA?
Don't you think there is so much out there in this world other than going to office, leading a family, raising chidren (In spite of India has already crossed 110 crores of population) and running behind money. Why does one need more and more money? Why do you want moeny if you aren't going to marry? Why do you have to work for these multinational companies if you don't want money? So, I think marriage makes us very fond of money. Or else, we and our children will be lagging behind in this materialistic world. Bribary also comes into picture at that point of time. There won't be any limit if you are into Govt job. Marriage makes you to compromise with so many things.
One should know what to give up for what. Most of the families aren't happy. But, they don't walk away showing so many excuses. Even, we can change our Govt every 5yrs or before 5yrs if we don't like. But, how many years does an unsatisfied couple want, to walk away from a relationship? How many decades do they want? May not be one life time? Is that all you do in your whole life? Why we are so stuck up with relationships?
What about parents? Do we have to obey them what ever they say? It's okay if they are getting upgraded themselves according to changing times. It's not okay if you are doing just because their qualification is being your Mom or Dad. What is the cost of it? your life? Your freedom?
So many whys without answers. I'd like to listen from you if you have answers for me.
Am I gonna neglect biological needs? Then, what about thousands of other things. Pranayama, Meditation, satvik food, good food habbits and positive thinking. Why every young woman and man is being compelled by the society to get married? Why not this society compel young people to practice YOGA?
Don't you think there is so much out there in this world other than going to office, leading a family, raising chidren (In spite of India has already crossed 110 crores of population) and running behind money. Why does one need more and more money? Why do you want moeny if you aren't going to marry? Why do you have to work for these multinational companies if you don't want money? So, I think marriage makes us very fond of money. Or else, we and our children will be lagging behind in this materialistic world. Bribary also comes into picture at that point of time. There won't be any limit if you are into Govt job. Marriage makes you to compromise with so many things.
One should know what to give up for what. Most of the families aren't happy. But, they don't walk away showing so many excuses. Even, we can change our Govt every 5yrs or before 5yrs if we don't like. But, how many years does an unsatisfied couple want, to walk away from a relationship? How many decades do they want? May not be one life time? Is that all you do in your whole life? Why we are so stuck up with relationships?
What about parents? Do we have to obey them what ever they say? It's okay if they are getting upgraded themselves according to changing times. It's not okay if you are doing just because their qualification is being your Mom or Dad. What is the cost of it? your life? Your freedom?
So many whys without answers. I'd like to listen from you if you have answers for me.
Dear friend,
ReplyDeleteThats an excellent blog, which many of us yougnsters must be pondering over (especially the current generation youngsters). I'm just one among them. I'm also a part of SVYASA - 85th YIC batch.
Its so true what you say there.. we are all looking for these answers. I cant say how much i relate to what you've written. Belong to a typical Inidan family , for whom marriage, children and social status are the only things that are needed for a "HAPPY" life. And i believe only Indians can really understand what you are exactly talking of there :-)
There's a whole materialistic world out there and people like us feel "out of place".. i feel that almost all the time. Let's calculate.. how many of us graduates or well educated adults think of doing what you've desired? That's a probable ratio of 1 out of 100.. may be ? For our parents they want us to follow the other 99 instead of doing what we truly believe in. They dream ever since we are born as to what they want us to be and do for ourselves and for them. And they are probably right in their own way, we'll never find out unless we become parents. The way out is perhaps to explain our ideas and come to an understanding that, we as individuals have our views about life and the way we lead it. Marriage may not be the answer for everything.
I'm on the same boat and looking for answers, please let me know how successful you are in the "art of convincing".
-Deepa
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You will get answers if you get married. You have to respect the law of impermanence. One or other day you have to leave this world. So, the Earth is made for people. There won't be any human being in the world after 100 years if everybody thinks as you are thinking now. Start loving unconditionally everything as they are. Love is the ultimate greatest thing which can be experienced by human beings only.
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ReplyDeleteYour blogs suggested that you are inclined towards an ascetic life. I believe everything in life has to happen at certain times. Marriage is one of them. You seem to refraining it just because you are afraid your partner might not share your thoughts/aspirations. But thats worth a risk than not getting married. God created different sexes on purpose - thats proven by religious texts as well as human history.
When you are deeply involved with something, everything else looks a waste. But don't take any impulsive decisions that would affect you and your family.
Living single is NO doubt a great decision in once life. Marry or NOT
ReplyDeletecan be seen in two different ways. Married life becomes a responsibility 2 each others and also dependency but 2 me marriage is an establishment created by God and performed by Individuals/Parents As per Guru's view once someone marry He is not left free to evaluate/creat or lead an independent life may become hurdle in once progress.Reason as explained being rising population in our country India where due to rise in population all the problems exists. Malnutrition in children hunger health care and so many more, But marriage is not the single reason 4 all these problems. Reason! is Inequality ill distribution of resources Once people start thinking 4 others and adapt the formula of "Live and Let others also Live" Once these opinion is formed in society NO problem will exist and world/India become golden bird as past Our country used 2 be called golden bird and in India only there was Ram Rajya where no body was neglected all have the same right of living prosperously may be poor or rich what ever may be . In all one should marry but only 2 girl or boy whom she/he loves.